Dont get me wrong, but, i realize a lot of people are settling also. In my job here, we are getting a lot of domestic reports, and when we talk to them, they are saying there were always problems, but work and friends/ socializing keeps it at bay, not they are home stuck with their partners and its not working out. Sometimes after midnight we have to rescue persons from issues, being put out in the lock down etc. Its hard for some, a guy said to me, its only because of his kids he dont want to go, because he does everything, cook clean and work, she dont do anything and from his experience, if he leaves, he worries for the kids. So, some know how to deal with it, and some just cant. Just saying
Me and my guy have been at it for 11 years and have children he says he’s tired of the back and forth but doesn’t realize we’re on and off because of the wrong he does and when I react to his wrong he’ll either ghost me or not see I get like this because I care and he doesn’t care enough. We’ve been thru it all and I’m not willing to let him go just yet I just want him to get it together and now he’s telling me it’s best we not be involved because of the things I say to him when I’m upset and because he’s not ready to settle down and wants to talk to different woman. I invested soo much in this man. He’s done soo much and accepted soo much shit just for him to walk away now and it sucks😔😔. I tried talking to him but he’s soo stubborn. I’ve been giving him his space and haven’t said a word to him in 3 days. I’m not gonna beg him to change his mind but how can I change his mind without saying anything to him. Possibly ignoring him and using lalas candles. Please help. Thank you!
Well, like I've stated earlier. My guy is the same. I tell him how I feel...he goes ghost which I feel is childish and cowardly. Nobody likes to be told if they're doing something wrong...but if he's not willing to change then you do what's best for you. You said he's done so much and you've accepted it...you've already told him indirectly he can do whatever and you'll still be there. Remember men and women will only do what you allow them to. We get so comfortable when we are in love and they feed off of that. I can't tell you what to do but for now I'd back away. If he's not ready, he's not ready. Take some time to work on you. If you want to use the candles go ahead...but remember a person's free will is stronger than any candle....we try so hard to fix things that simply aren't meant to be fixed...or not right now. But if you wanna go for it, unhex, halo, healing, 5th POM or papa Legba, maybe erzille Freda... devotion bundle or lovers return if he's gone...ahari where you see fit and 2nd POM if he's still stubborn. Use that where he's the most stubborn at. Burn the first three...clear your mind and cleanse yourself and then see how you feel.
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I know, I haven’t reached out to him and been giving him the silent treatment. He always comes back but I just hate he comes back with the same old BS. I want him to come back correct
I understand. If and when he comes back put your foot down. If things don't change or if he's not willing to at least compromise with you so that yall can be on the same page, then you leave. Sometimes you gotta flip the switch.
WOW!!!!! 🤯 Oh my God these men are so messed up. As emotional as women are, we’re so intelligent and men are just so oblivious and STUPID. Being attracted to men is the true ghetto. I’ve dealt with some of the things you mentioned. It really sucks when the love and care is there but the person just isn’t up to par. It’s especially sad when they’re unable to see it. 😪
Oh he sees it. Constantly tells me he loves me, etc. Bullshit love is what love does. Even told me I'm the best he's had. But he doesn't want to commit to me. I can't say if he's ever stepped out on me nor have I asked or tried to find out. You go looking for trouble you'll find it. He knows the kind of woman that I am but for his own reasons which I have to respect he doesn't think I'm the one for him. When we argue nothing is ever his fault...its always mine...im too emotional a crybaby all that mess. It hurts like a motherfucker but I have to respect his feelings. Anything I tolerate afterwards is on me and for that I decided to take the steps to heal and move on..it's hard...I'm torn...this healing candle is almost done and I really just want to cry my ass off. But I gotta go through the rough waters to heal. I'd rather take the time to get over him then to spend money trying to get him to see what he already knows. There's someone out there for me....maybe our hearts will meet again in the future but for now I'm just gonna keep working on healing myself. I've allowed myself to go through unnecessary heartbreak for a man who's told me many times and shown me he's not going to change. They'll say them sweet nothings to get you where they want you and it's back to the same bs. Gotta break that cycle and that soul tie.
It happened, we talked about it, he expressed remorse, and it just doesn’t need to happen ever again...that’s all I know. I’ve been talking to psychics trying to figure him and the relationship out the entirety of the relationship. I started talking to psychics in 2014 when I was going through a situationship with another guy in college because I have really bad anxiety. When I feel like I don’t have control over a situation, it’s like an obsession. I have a panic attack and have to know the meaning behind things. It’s crazy. Some have told me we’re meant to be together and some have told me that we’re not going to breakup. One thing that has always stayed consistent is them seeing that he has childhood emotional issues. Of course he isn’t spiritual or as emotionally/self aware as me, so he’s clueless to what changes he needs to make caused by this trauma. So, I’ll definitely see how everything goes once I get those candles. I hope that it reveals whether or not we’re meant to be and why we’ve gone through the stuff we have. I just don’t want to be dumb in love. Don’t nobody got time to keep dating if it’s not meant to be anyway smh. I need these candles to let me know.
After you did your Halo, did you wait 3 days and then burned Healing or did you wait more days in between? LaLa didn’t recommend Unhex to me, but do you think I need to do Unhex for my relationship work or do it when I do my separate healing work for just myself (not relationship related, but for past trauma)?
I did it 4 days later....I'd do unhex for you first. Then proceed with Halo. You can include him in unhex as well if you'd like
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@Brandy Wilcox thank you for being so open, bc you just read me zownnn. I just finished my healing and before when i lit halo, my target and i were on good terms, the day after i light healing we stop speaking -_- his bday is coming up and im torn between ending our “feud” and saying happy bday or not reaching out and just let it be. 😩im not even sure what spirit is trying to tell me.
There's no rush lol I kinda wanna let the UnHex halo and healing take its course a lil while longer. But I don't think it'll be a problem if I do use a conjure candle tomorrow...didn't you do 1st POM the day after sweetening?
My halo finished Friday morning , he left Friday. then 1 POM right after on Saturday afternoon, then sweetening Sunday and it finished Monday. And he called this morning
@Brandy Wilcox WELL.....Hell, I cant wait to burn my unhex and healing candles..I been checking my email like a mad woman the past 3 days for a shipping conformation even though I know good and gosh damn well I probably won't get it until at least tomorrow! 😖
@Brandy Wilcox girl you just spoke to my whole soul . Cuz i was going through it . I’m using healing for me and him though because it’s time for things to be revealed and healed and said
Part of healing is to accept the situation and own it. Folks are so ashamed and worried about what the next person gon say... and of course some folks just want to see you unhappy....you never know how your story can help someone else.
@Taylor Wow thank you for that! I KEEP ONN sewing testomonials a out unhex and healing. When I placed my order I was only going to get Unhex...ended up getting 4 items...I felt drawn to get Healing and I thought why healing and not halo? I obeyed..and it was cheaper...I'm glad I did, I keep getting confirmation that I made right choice!!🤗
@Taylor Wow thank you for that! I KEEP ONN sewing testomonials a out unhex and healing. When I placed my order I was only going to get Unhex...ended up getting 4 items...I felt drawn to get Healing and I thought why healing and not halo? I obeyed..and it was cheaper...I'm glad I did, I keep getting confirmation that I made right choice!!🤗
Y’all! He jus called me! We haven’t talked since he left Friday, i had Saturday compel and Sunday i lit sweetening and it was done yesterday. Now i did jus purchase the Butterfly Ritual and Bondage from Tina Lala daughter this morning and BOOM! he calls me saying he misses me and we gotta get back together bc we belong together . I love seeing movement ! Thanks Tete Lala!
It's a ritual to remove negative ties to an unhealthy relationship. I had it done once last year and it did not work lol primarily because I really wasn't ready to let go completely. As soon as she did it he text me and I fell for the BS and went through the same shit with him again. They can feel when you're about to leave. They play hard to get and like they don't care...will go entertain someone else but they'll come back or try and string along an ex... especially if she's good to him or if she just simply allows him to cone and go. Men and women...don't wanna be biased they'll do what you allow them to..that's why I said just because they come back doesnt always mean they want you
Thought I was the only one orderd on the 17 and be stalking my email but it will proabably be next week but I am patient
It could be the fact that Venus is going retrograde soon and in the shadow phase. Just something to think about.
Yep
Sounds like you e been studying my dea!!😜😜 This is totally true..and narcissistic behavior or even the disorder.
Dont get me wrong, but, i realize a lot of people are settling also. In my job here, we are getting a lot of domestic reports, and when we talk to them, they are saying there were always problems, but work and friends/ socializing keeps it at bay, not they are home stuck with their partners and its not working out. Sometimes after midnight we have to rescue persons from issues, being put out in the lock down etc. Its hard for some, a guy said to me, its only because of his kids he dont want to go, because he does everything, cook clean and work, she dont do anything and from his experience, if he leaves, he worries for the kids. So, some know how to deal with it, and some just cant. Just saying
Yes what’s going on??
Me and my guy have been at it for 11 years and have children he says he’s tired of the back and forth but doesn’t realize we’re on and off because of the wrong he does and when I react to his wrong he’ll either ghost me or not see I get like this because I care and he doesn’t care enough. We’ve been thru it all and I’m not willing to let him go just yet I just want him to get it together and now he’s telling me it’s best we not be involved because of the things I say to him when I’m upset and because he’s not ready to settle down and wants to talk to different woman. I invested soo much in this man. He’s done soo much and accepted soo much shit just for him to walk away now and it sucks😔😔. I tried talking to him but he’s soo stubborn. I’ve been giving him his space and haven’t said a word to him in 3 days. I’m not gonna beg him to change his mind but how can I change his mind without saying anything to him. Possibly ignoring him and using lalas candles. Please help. Thank you!
WOW!!!!! 🤯 Oh my God these men are so messed up. As emotional as women are, we’re so intelligent and men are just so oblivious and STUPID. Being attracted to men is the true ghetto. I’ve dealt with some of the things you mentioned. It really sucks when the love and care is there but the person just isn’t up to par. It’s especially sad when they’re unable to see it. 😪
It happened, we talked about it, he expressed remorse, and it just doesn’t need to happen ever again...that’s all I know. I’ve been talking to psychics trying to figure him and the relationship out the entirety of the relationship. I started talking to psychics in 2014 when I was going through a situationship with another guy in college because I have really bad anxiety. When I feel like I don’t have control over a situation, it’s like an obsession. I have a panic attack and have to know the meaning behind things. It’s crazy. Some have told me we’re meant to be together and some have told me that we’re not going to breakup. One thing that has always stayed consistent is them seeing that he has childhood emotional issues. Of course he isn’t spiritual or as emotionally/self aware as me, so he’s clueless to what changes he needs to make caused by this trauma. So, I’ll definitely see how everything goes once I get those candles. I hope that it reveals whether or not we’re meant to be and why we’ve gone through the stuff we have. I just don’t want to be dumb in love. Don’t nobody got time to keep dating if it’s not meant to be anyway smh. I need these candles to let me know.
@Brandy Wilcox thank you for being so open, bc you just read me zownnn. I just finished my healing and before when i lit halo, my target and i were on good terms, the day after i light healing we stop speaking -_- his bday is coming up and im torn between ending our “feud” and saying happy bday or not reaching out and just let it be. 😩im not even sure what spirit is trying to tell me.
I meant OG. SMH
Well Amen and HALLELUYUR to that!! @Brandy Wilcox
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@Brandy Wilcox WELL.....Hell, I cant wait to burn my unhex and healing candles..I been checking my email like a mad woman the past 3 days for a shipping conformation even though I know good and gosh damn well I probably won't get it until at least tomorrow! 😖
@Brandy Wilcox girl you just spoke to my whole soul . Cuz i was going through it . I’m using healing for me and him though because it’s time for things to be revealed and healed and said
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Y’all! He jus called me! We haven’t talked since he left Friday, i had Saturday compel and Sunday i lit sweetening and it was done yesterday. Now i did jus purchase the Butterfly Ritual and Bondage from Tina Lala daughter this morning and BOOM! he calls me saying he misses me and we gotta get back together bc we belong together . I love seeing movement ! Thanks Tete Lala!
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