Healing work before love work

A lot of y’all are dealing with abandonment trsums and co dependency. Most of the time you feeling a person not wanting you has little to do with them not loving you but on you having trust issues and fear. You pass that energy to your person and it ruins the relationship. Any of y’all who has ever had a conversation with me know I tell you the truth. ImmA always say heal first. That fear runs people off even when they love you. Then you by pass the healing and jump right into love. You will see little to no movement and even when you see movement, it’s short lived because your insecurities and lack of allowing your person person space ruins the relationship. learn to be alone. Learn to heal those pains you don’t want to face or admit that you have. Once you heal, work on money. Y’all spend your last dime on love candles and can’t even afford to do the day to day stuff. Get your money before you get your honey. Hell you make enough you may not even want that same relationship anyway. Some of y’all just hate rejection the thought of it pushed you to pursue the person even more. Handle that. It’s too many ways to heal to be running around losing your shit over another person. Love work is the hardest work. Why? Because you have to mess with someone’s free will. Can it be done? Yes! Definitely but not when you are blocked. Not when you won’t heal. You will forever be burning candles for it until you heal and release the need to control the timing of when it appears. If you heal and put it out into the universe and say universe i release the need to know how or when my lover will come and I know you will bring them, it comes quicker. So heal and if you need the order of healing I’ll help you.