I want to do it, but I refuse to....

As I read alot of the posts in this forum, I see that alot of you ladies (and the few gents we have) are burning candles for love and return of the exes and to separate ppl so that they can be with you. Which is cool and all, and of course I'm not knocking anyone bcuz this has been going on for centuries, im sure. But I was thinking...I have a love interest that I believe is my twin flame, but we are in separation and non-speaking terms. I have done a spell on him once (this was pre-Lala and me just beginning my craft) and it actually worked. And although as excited as I was, it just never set well with me bcuz I felt that I manipulated someone's mind. I also heard that you have to continue these things to keep them bound to you. I later found out that someone else placed juju on him and used money as the main factor which had him treating me like I was nothing. And when I say heartbreak, that's EXACTLY what I experienced when he turned on me. I mean, I paid money to see about the destiny with this man and the last interaction I had with him, he told me he didnt care that I was in love with him and blocked me on social media. That was the LAST STRAW! I realized that it was a toxic relationship and he kept me in a 3rd party the whole time I dealt with him. So now, I'm picking up the pieces and moving on concentrating on loving me and healing more than ever bcuz I WILL NEVER deal in that type of energy EVER again! What trips me out is that every time I have a tarot/psychic reading, this mofo is in my energy and it NEVER fails! They always say, he's gonna come back around and try to reconcile things and this and that. The thing is, I dont even want him no more bcuz I dont even feel the same about him. While gaining myself, I've loss all respect for him. So even if he tried to get at me, I will turn away bcuz my soul is done and severed that soul tie. All I'm saying is, make sure the person is what you really want and see yourself with bcuz its MEANT to be and not bcuz of selfishness.