Is there a candle for common sense? And is there a candle to emotionally detach?

PLEASE HELP !!!!🙏

Ok, so since I have found my own peace of mind, I been wanting to help my loved ones find their’s, too. The problem is they keep self sabotaging my workings! Or more shit pop off, and I stop doing workings for me cause my heart goes out to them. And it be the most common sense shit that they just be dumbfounded to. My brother had all the cards in his hand to fix his situation. Baby momma put nephew on a plane to live with my brother (with ONLY the shirt on his back) after CPS was called on her household. I burnt the beginners bundle, sire, and mars for him and his son. His business was doing great and growing- networking increases, clientered increase with referral, he championed some friendly competition, and profits increased. Him and his son was bonding very well. And nephew creating strong bonds with other family members too. And nephew’s sports development was growing, along with his grade, social media following. And all the cards my brother needs to protect his rights to his son. Then, she buttered Bro and nephew up after 6 month of him living with Bro- despite the advise from CPS, counselors, and family members telling him not visit his mom till she get her life together- get her abusive husband out her life cause he was ordered by CPS NOT to be around my nephew. And so in July, with the thought that she and nephew would be at her sister’s home for a weekend visit, Bro let nephew go to visit his mother, aunty, and sisters nephew was missing very much. (Nephew’s mother canceled the returning flight, never took him to auntie’s house, and talked him in to staying with her while said husband still lives in house.) And Bro let this go on waited till something else popped off in August to get a welfare check on nephew.

This completing sabotaged all the working I did for him- I’m little bit bitter about this. And I feel I need to emotionally detach from his situation. I empathically get emotionally involved with my loved one lives and alway feel the need to come to aide. And many times I feel its in vain, cause they work against my help or disregard my warning and help as some bullshit. I feel like this only hurts me.

So, I feel like the next time I want to help someone, I need to burn a “Common Sense Ritual” so they figure shit out for themselves. Cause the whole family and friends being telling Bro what to do to help him, so he drag his feet and make excuses. Then want rant and complain about his shit LIKE HE HAD NO CLUE THIS WOULD HAPPEN AND HE DONT KNOW OR HAVE THE MEANS TO FIX HIS LIFE. But, all help has been freely offered. IM SO SICK OF THIS SHIT. MANY PEOPLE WISH THEY HAD THE LIFE AND PROBLEMS HE GOT!!!!

And I need to cleanse myself from being emotionally attached to other people shit I have no control over… THIS HORSE WON’T DRINK!!!!

I apologize for my tone AND choice of language. I’m just tired of being emotionally drained by other people‘s problems. And I’m tired of wanting to give advice and help to people that aren’t going to use it to improve themselves for their highest good. I got my own problems to work on and I only have 24hour in a day- shit is BIG DRAINING. And I guess I am “Big Mad”….🧐🤔

PLEASE HELP !!!!🙏

Thanks in advance!❤️🕯🙏