So this is not really a question more so if any of my cousins can give suggestions of how to navigate in the space while I’m waiting on my candles to arrive to do the spiritual work I need to do.
In short my husband is not really interested in rekindling our marriage because of all of our past transgressions that led to a recent argument a couple of weeks ago and it’s got him to the point where he’s fed up.
so I’ve been using the healing candle to heal the communication which I’ve just burned today and in doing so I’ve been trying to avoid testing the candle by having any type of argument but he is just very disagreeable to talk to.
I feel like the healing candle is working in the regards of giving me more understanding of how he feels even though he’s communicating in a tough love place but I asked for it to heal our communication and re-Kendall some of the love that was there.
My important candles don’t arrive until next week conveniently while I’m on a business trip so I won’t be able to do any work at least until the week after but I’m just concerned that if I don’t do anything in the Meantime is going to get worse.
he states that he has apprehension that anything will change so he rather just be by himself and honestly hearing that almost every other day it’s just breaking my heart.
I’ve made changes in my own actions daily but he just told me today that he feels like it’s not organic and then I’m just trying to get it has good Grace which duh I mean I don’t want to not be in his good Grace so it’s just mad confusing.
Felt like I had family here so I just wanted to see if anybody had any recommendations and what not otherwise I’m gonna take a bath and take a nap lol
There is definitely some manipulation in the mix. I’m sure you both have added to the issues within your marriage but it’s seem as though your the only one taking blame. He’s wants space and time, give that to him. You have to not only light the candles, you have to also do your part. Everything he’s asking of you do it. I’m sure you also need that space and time. You both need to heal And work on self. Jump into things you like to do. Get dressed and go to a friends house, to the movies even alone. Then out to dinner alone at the bar too at a restaurant. Or invite you a friend. This season is about taking care and finding you in you. Mending you will mend y’all. And whether that’s mending together or apart only spirit knows. But be gentle on you. Let this cycle take its course. You will be okay :)