Soulmate or nah? NO JUDGEMENT

So I’ve been knowing this guy since the 9th grade (14,15yrs old) and at this time we had all classes together. I didn’t like him at all because he was a class clown and I was just so mature lol. So after hurricane Katrina hit I never even thought of him but I received a friend request and a message from him on MySpace lol. He asked me for my number which I thought was weird so I gave it to him... We started hanging out every blue moon... He asked me to be his gf but I was young and enjoying my prime so a relationship wasn’t on my mind... I ended up getting pregnant (17yrs old) by someone else and he still talked to me 🤷🏽‍♀️ we lost touch then a few years later he found me... I would be out with friends and he would see me and it wouldn’t matter who’s around he would kiss me and we would go our separate way. we would talk again every blue moon but this one day (22yrs old) he asked me to be his gf again but I had just gotten out of a bad relationship so I told him not at that moment. We lost touch once again( he just keeps popping back into my life but not purposely) he saw me at (23) I was working then again at (27) on bourbon for halloween he spotted me in a large crowd and now at (30) he’s (31) we’re back in touch but now he’s in a relationship with a kid (7) but he’s not in love with her. He says he wants to be with me but he doesn’t want to break her heart because she helped him out when he went to jail. He’s been wanting to see me but I recently told him that I don’t want to hurt myself knowing I can’t have him all to myself right now so I fell back... what should I do? Should I let it all just go? Do it sound like it’s worth keeping him at arms length for now? Should I let the spirits decide?