To give up or not to give up

Definitely work on yourself first & operate in your highest self possible, then pay attention to things. Using myself as an example, I did all of these above, including shadow work..come to find out a family member had hexed me and my mother because she was jealous & it affected our relationships and marriages. I attempted love and attraction work in the past unknowingly this had happened & I would attract crazy people or they would just ghost me. Fast forward to last summer I discovered Lala & her work/candles, etc and things seem to be going good in different departments..I just have to wait on divine timing.. And I never forget the order of using them!

When you focus your attention on yourself, living a full life, loving yourself, taking care of your mental health, and focusing on your growth and functioning at your highest self, you'll attract amazing people in your life. One of whom will be the lover/husband/life partner that is perfect for you. We mirror & attract what we put out into the world.

It took me over 10 years to get my ex back. We were high school sweethearts but then I moved out of the state in junior year. I pined after him from the moment I left. For the record, there was no bad blood. We didn't "break up". I just moved. In my 20s I hired about a dozen spellcasters to get him back. This was before Facebook/Instagram so I had no clue what he was doing in his life. But anyway, the spellcasters did nothing but take my money (still don't use spellcasters to this day). When I was about 24, 25, I started doing home grown candle rituals. Nothing serious or fancy. Just a simple candle and a prayer. Five FULL years went by before anything happened. At some point along the way, Facebook was invented and I started searching for him on a regular basis but i never found him. He has a really common name and even after scrolling through like 20 pages of guys with his same name, I never found him. Then one day he randomly popped up on my suggested friends list. To make an extremely long story slightly shorter, he started dating some chick when he was 19. They got married when he was 20. They started having marital discord when he was 24/25, and they finally got divorced when he was 28. So I assume the 5 years of waiting for me was the time it took for them to start having problems and get divorced. I had no idea he was married when I was casting though. He and I will be married 10 years in September. For the record, I dated other people during that time. I got married, had a kid and got divorced myself. I always kept him in the back of my mind though. I always held onto the hope that we would get back together, but I didnt obsess about it. I didn't sit around waiting for him. I lived my life and held onto the faith and it paid off. Sorry for the novel.